Ukuba nabangane abahle kuyazuzisa kunoma ibuphi ubudala, ngoba kusigcina sikhuthele ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Kodwa-ke, njengoba ukhula, labo bangane bangenza umehluko wangempela. Kusukela eneminyaka engamashumi ayisithupha, ukuba nabangane kuthuthukisa izinga lempilo kwabantu.
Futhi, ngokocwaningo lwamuva nje, umuzwa wesizungu obangelwa ukungabi nabangane ungadala ukucindezeleka futhi ube mubi nezinye izifo, kwandise ingozi yokufa ngokushesha. Ukuhlangana nabantu kuthuthukisa imizwa futhi kuvuselele amakhono okuqonda, kubenza bahlale bephilile ngesikhathi sokuguga.
Uma usudlulile eminyakeni engamashumi ayisithupha futhi okungenani unomuntu oyedwa okuqondayo, ongamtshela noma yini, unenhlanhla, ngoba lelo qiniso elilula, kodwa elibaluleke kakhulu lanele ukusiza ukuvimbela ukudangala noma ukuwohloka komqondo. Ucwaningo olwenziwe eNetherlands luphethe ngokuthi abadala abanesizungu banamathuba aphindwe kayi-1,6 okuthola ukuwohloka komqondo.
Kodwa-ke, ochwepheshe baxwayisa ngokuthi hhayi noma yiluphi uhlobo lomngane olubalulekile, kodwa lokho ukuphindisela kubaluleke kakhulu. Ubungane obuzuzisayo yilobo lapho sinikela khona lokho esikutholayo, okungukuthi, lapho kunebhalansi futhi akekho kithi odela ngaphezu komunye. Laba bantu ababili kufanele banikele ngehlombe labo lapho omunye edinga futhi bathathe izinyathelo zokugcina ubudlelwano, njengokushaya ucingo nokuphakamisa amasu ngokuthanda kwabo bobabili.