Wake wazibuza ukuthi ngabe kukhona ongakwenza ukuze uphile isikhathi eside futhi ube ngcono? EHarvard University baqala ukusebenza ngalolu daba ngawo-30s manje Bathi bathole imfihlo yempilo nenjabulo.
Ngokusho kukaprofesa waseHarvard nodokotela wezifo zengqondo uRobert Waldinger, akukhulunywa ngempumelelo noma ngemali, kepha kumayelana nokuthile okulula kakhulu futhi okufinyeleleka kuwo wonke umuntu: ubudlelwano babantu. EMpumalanga ukutadisha okuhlukahlukene kweminyaka engaphezu kwengu-75 ubude besikhathi, lapho ababambiqhaza bahlukaniswe baba ngamaqembu amabili (abafundi baseHarvard nabafana abancane abavela emindenini ebencishwe amathuba), ufinyelele kulezi ziphetho ngokuhlola kwengqondo, izingxoxo nezihloko (futhi ekugcineni nemindeni yabo), ukuhlaziywa kwegazi nokuhlolwa kwezempilo:
- Abantu abanempilo eningi emphakathini bajabule kakhudlwana, banempilo enhle futhi baphila isikhathi eside.
- Ebudlelwaneni, ikhwalithi ibaluleke kakhulu kunenani. Ukuzizwa unelisekile ebudlelwaneni kubikezela impilo ezayo.
- Yize imishado enezingxabano ezinkulu ingaba yimbi kunezehlukaniso, ubudlelwano obuhle abusho ukuthi "ukuxabana okungatheni." Ukwehla nokwenyuka akukubi, inqobo nje uma kugcinwa ukwethembana, inhlonipho nokuzibophezela.
- Isizungu siyabulala. Umuzwa wesizungu ungaba nobuthi. Abantu abahlukanisiwe abajabule kangako futhi impilo yomzimba nengqondo iba mbi ngokushesha; baphila impilo emfushane.
Waldinger imema abantu ukuthi balwele ebudlelwaneni babo uqobo njengoba benza emikhakheni yabo yobungcweti. Impilo yethu incike kuyo, lokho kucace bha, ngakho-ke ukwenza abangane emsebenzini nangaphandle emsebenzini nokuhlakulela ubudlelwano nabangane, umndeni, nabanye abantu ababalulekile kubalulekile, noma ngabe kunzima kangakanani kithina. Umvuzo awukho ngaphansi kokuphila isikhathi eside futhi ungcono.