Abantu abanenkathalo kwaye balandela yonke imiyalelo ogqirha wabo abanika yona emva kokufakelwa kwentliziyo kunokwenzeka ngakumbi uhlale usempilweni iminyaka eli-10 emva kotyando kunaleyo ingenayo.
Kule nqaku, siqokelela izinto ezintlanu ezingundoqo abantu abanentliziyo etyaliweyo kufuneka bayenze ukwandisa ubomi babo kwiminyaka emva kotyando, kodwa khumbula: Okokuqala, soloko ulandela imiyalelo kagqirha kwaye ubuze nantoni na ongayiqondiyo.
Hlala ekuhambeni yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuba sempilweni. Emva kwexesha lokuphilisa, uninzi loogqirha lukhuthaza izigulana zabo ukuba zizilolonge rhoqo, nokuba yinto ephantsi njengokuhamba.
Zijikelezwe kakuhle Kubaluleke kakhulu. Iinkqubo zenkxaso-ezenziwe lusapho kunye nabahlobo-zenza ubomi bube lula ebantwini emva kokufakelwa kwentliziyo kwaye bunokubusindisa ubomi babo.
Kuya kufuneka unonophele imiqondiso ekhutshwa ngumzimba ukunxibelelana nogqirha. Ezinye zeempawu ezingaqhelekanga zinokubangela umngcipheko empilweni, ngelixa ezinye zingayi kuba yinto yokubhala ekhaya. Ngolunye uhlobo, mamela umzimba wakho kwaye ukuthetha ngayo nogqirha wakho kuhlala kunceda ekuphuculeni impilo emva kofakelo lwentliziyo.
Landela imikhwa yokutya esempilweni ngummiselo wokuba kungabikho sigulana sentliziyo efakelweyo esitsibayo. Ukutya kufuneka kube sezantsi kwisodiyam ukunciphisa umngcipheko wezifo ezifana neswekile okanye uxinzelelo lwegazi. Oku kuhlala kufuna amandla amakhulu, njengoko ngamanye amaxesha ulingeka ukuba ukhethe ukutya okungalunganga, kodwa kuya kufuneka uhlale womelele kuba umvuzo ulungile: ukuhlala ixesha elide kunye nokuba ngcono.