Ukuzithemba kukuzamkela kuqala ukuze ukwazi ukuthanda abanye. Kwabaninzi, yimfihlo yempilo elungileyo, ubuhle obukhulu kwaye, ekugqibeleni, umgangatho wobomi obungcono.
Abantu bahlala becinga ukuba baxabiseke kakhulu njengezinto abanazo, imisebenzi yabo, okanye inkangeleko yabo, enokuthi ikhokelele ekubeni bazigxeke kakhulu, kwaye ekugqibeleni bangonwabi. Ukuthintela oku, kuya kufuneka ubeke konke ecaleni kwaye usebenze ngokuzithemba, ukuze yenze ikhule ngokuzimeleyo kuyo yonke enye into.
Apha sikunika ezinye iingcebiso zokunyusa ukuzithemba. Kuba kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba sizazi njani iimpazamo zethu, kodwa kukwabalulekile ukuba sazi ukuba zeziphi na izinto ezintle esiziphumezileyo:
Musa ukuzithelekisa nomnye umntu, kuba uya kunciphisa ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuzithemba onakho kuwe. Funda ukuzithanda njengoko unjalo, omabini amandla akho kunye neziphene zakho.
Kufuneka ube nguwe kuphela umgwebi. Musa ukukhathalela uluvo lomntu malunga nawe, kuphela olwakho kwaye usebenze ukuze ulunge. Zama ukuba nethemba ngawe.
Zikhumbuze yonke imihla, ngokufanelekileyo kusasa, ngaphambi kokuba uvuke ebhedini, ukuba uyathandeka.
Yiba nobubele emzimbeni wakho nakwingqondo yakho. Ziqhelanise nohlobo lomthambo oluthandayo kakhulu kwaye ungashiyi umngxuma engqondweni yakho ngenxa yeengcinga ezinoxinzelelo. Iimeko ezinzima zoyiswa ngokuthatha amanyathelo amancinci.
Ziqinisekise yonke imihla ukuba ubufanelwe bubomi obuhle kwaye uthathe inyathelo lokwenza njalo. Beka kude konke okungalunganga kwaye uqalise ukukholelwa kuwe nakuwo onke amathuba angenamda obomi obunabo.
Gxila apha kwaye ngoku. Yonwaba okwangoku kwaye unganyanzelisi ixesha elidlulileyo okanye elizayo, kuba uzibeka emngciphekweni wokuwela kukuzisola okanye kuxinzelelo kwaye ngenxa yoko ungonwabi.
Zinike izinto, ezinokuba yeyiphi na into ukusuka kwinto ukuya kulala okanye emva kwemini yolonwabo olunyulu usenza into esiyithandayo sodwa okanye kwinkampani yabantu abasenza sizive silungile kwaye sithandwa.
Vumela ukuba ubonwe kwaye uve. Musa ukuzifihla ehlabathini. Umfanekiso wakho kunye nezinto oza kuzithetha zisemthethweni njengezinye izinto. Ungaze uzibeke phantsi ngezi ndlela.