Ngaba wakha wazibuza ukuba ikhona into onokuyenza ukuze uphile ixesha elide kwaye ube ngcono? KwiYunivesithi yaseHarvard baqala ukusebenza kulo mbuzo kwii-30s ngoku Banga ukuba bayifumene imfihlo yempilo kunye nolonwabo.
NgokukaNjingalwazi waseHarvard kunye noGqirha wezifo zengqondo uRobert Waldinger, ayibhekiseli kwimpumelelo okanye kwimali, kodwa malunga nento elula kakhulu kunye nokufikelela komntu wonke: ubudlelwane babantu. bucala ngasekhohlo Izifundo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo ezihlala ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-75, apho abathathi-nxaxheba bahlulahlulwe baba ngamaqela amabini (abafundi baseHarvard kunye namakhwenkwe asuka kwiintsapho ezihlelelekileyo), bafikelele kwezi zigqibo zilandelayo ngokuskena kwengqondo, udliwanondlebe nezifundo (kwaye ekugqibeleni neentsapho zabo), uhlalutyo lwegazi kunye nokuhlolwa kwezempilo:
- Abantu abanobomi ekuhlaleni bonwabile, basempilweni kwaye baphila ixesha elide.
- Kubudlelwane, umgangatho ubaluleke ngaphezu kobungakanani. Ukuziva wonelisekile kubudlelwane kuqikelela impilo yexesha elizayo.
- Nangona imitshato enongquzulwano oluphezulu inokuba mbi ngaphezu koqhawulo-mtshato, ubudlelwane obulungileyo abuthethi "ukungavisisani." Amahla ndinyuka ayisiyonto imbi, ukuba nje kugcinwa ukuthembana, imbeko kunye nokuzinikela.
- Ubulolo buyabulala. Imvakalelo yokuba lilolo inokuba yityhefu. Abantu ababekelwe bodwa abonwabanga kwaye impilo yomzimba nengqondo iba mbi msinyane; baphila ubomi obufutshane.
UWaldinger imema abantu ukuba bazabalaze kubudlelwane babo njengoko benza kwimisebenzi yabo yobungcali. Ubomi bethu buxhomekeke kuyo, yindlela ecace gca ngayo, ke ukwenza abahlobo emsebenzini nangaphandle kokusebenza kunye nokuhlakulela ubudlelwane nabahlobo, usapho, kunye nabanye abantu ababalulekileyo kubalulekile, nokuba kunzima kangakanani. Umvuzo awungaphantsi kokuphila ixesha elide kwaye ungcono.