Wakambozvibvunza here kana paine chimwe chinhu chaunogona kuita kuti urarame kwenguva yakareba uye zvirinani? KuHarvard University vakatanga kushanda panhau iyi muma30s uye ikozvino Vanoti vakawana chakavanzika chehutano uye mufaro.
Sekureva kwepurofesa weHarvard uye chiremba wepfungwa Robert Waldinger, hazvisi zvekubudirira kana mari, asi nezve chimwe chinhu chakareruka uye chinowanikwa nemunhu wese: hukama hwevanhu. mabvazuva kuwanda kudzidza kwakawanda kweanopfuura makore makumi manomwe emakore, iyo iyo vatori vechikamu vakakamurwa kuva mapoka maviri (vadzidzi veHarvard nevakomana vadiki vanobva kumhuri dzakatambura), vasvika pamhedziso inotevera kuburikidza nekuongororwa kwehuropi, kubvunzurudzwa nedzidzo (uye pakupedzisira nemhuri dzavo), kuongororwa kweropa uye kuongororwa kwehutano:
- Vanhu vane hupenyu hwemagariro vanofara, hutano uye vanorarama kwenguva refu.
- Muhukama, mhando yakakosha kupfuura huwandu. Kunzwa kugutsikana muhukama kunofanotaura hutano mune ramangwana.
- Kunyangwe michato ine makakatanwa makuru inogona kuve yakaipa kupfuura kurambana, hukama hwakanaka hazvireve "zero zero kupokana." Iko kumusoro nekudzika hazvisi zvisina kunaka, sekureba sekuvimba, kuremekedza uye kuzvipira zvinochengetedzwa.
- Kusurukirwa kunouraya. Kunzwa kusurukirwa kunogona kuva chepfu. Vanhu vari vega havana mufaro uye hutano hwepanyama uye hwepfungwa hunowedzera kukurumidza; vanorarama hupenyu hupfupi.
Waldinger inokumbira vanhu kuti vaedze muhukama hwavo hwepedyo zvakanyanya sezvavanoita mumabasa avo ehunyanzvi. Hupenyu hwedu hunotsamira pazviri, ndozvazviri pachena, saka kuita shamwari pabasa uye nekunze kubasa nekukudziridza hukama neshamwari, mhuri, uye nevamwe vanhu vakakosha kwakakosha, kunyangwe zviome sei kwatiri. Mubairo uyu hapana zviripo pasi pekurarama kwenguva yakareba uye zvirinani.