Fi kelela lonwabo inganxulunyaniswa nokukwazi ukwamkela okanye ukubala ubomi njengoko bunjalo. Kukho abantu abanolwazelelelo ngakumbi kulonwabo kunabanye.
UAbraham IMaslow, utata we-humanistic psychology uthi ukuchonga izinto eziyimfuneko ezichaza oku kulungela ulonwabo, ukulungisa iingxaki zekhonkrithi kunokuhlala uzikhuphe kuye kwaye ubaleke kwimikhwa yentlalo nakwimeko yezentlalo.
Ukongeza, iyangqina ukuba ulonwabo lufumaneka ngokufikelela kwinqanaba eliphezulu lokuziqonda.
Kukho ezinye iimodeli kunye nethiyori ezixabisekileyo, phakathi kwezinye, uphando kunye noxinzelelo kumzuzu wangoku ukufikelela kwinqanaba elithile le- lonwabo. Ngapha koko, wonke umsebenzi, nokuba uyintoni na, ufuna ingqwalaselo apha kwaye ngoku enokusisondeza kwelo lizwe, injongo ke ngoko kukuba sikwazi ukuyiphinda le miba amatyeli amaninzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Esi simo sengqondo siba luhlobo intanda-bulumko, ukonwaba kuvela kwizimbo ezincinci zemihla ngemihla.
La lonwabo Ingabonakaliswa ngokuthatha inxaxheba kwindalo iphela okanye imvakalelo yokuthatha inxaxheba kwinto enkulu kunawe, into enje kwangaxeshanye ayiquki kwaye isiqulathile. Apha sibhekisa kwinjongo yobomi nakwinkcazo yokomoya ngakumbi yolonwabo.
Ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga ekhoyo, i lonwabo iya kufikeleleka kuphela emva kokufa. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba kunjalo kwaye nokuhamba kwethu emhlabeni bekuya kuba yindawo yokulungiselela kuphela. Kwezi ngcinga, ayisosiphelo esibalulekileyo, kodwa indlela eya esiphelweni.
Kodwa uninzi lweengcinga kunye neengqondi ziyavuma xa zisithi lonwabo ayizi kufika yodwa. Ihlabathi esinalo entlokweni yethu ayililo elokwenyani, yinkcaso phakathi kwezi zinto zombini esenza singonwabi. I-Dissonance kunye nokukhohlisa ayizizo izihlobo ezilungileyo, kufuneka sisebenze ukuze ilizwe esinalo kwiintloko zethu lisondele kangangoko kunokwenzeka kuleyo iyinyani.